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Spiritual MEntoring Frequently Asked QUestions

What is a spiritual mentor?

A spiritual mentor can be defined as a guide and/ or tutor that can provide input on incorporating spirituality into your life. As a spiritual mentor, I provide you with the tools to create your own relationship/s with the Divine Energies. I feel strongly that it is your own spiritual self that you want to connect with, and no other person can stand as a “translator” in that process. In mentoring, I typically meet with you on a regular basis (for instance, bimonthly or monthly) for a half-hour or hour each time.

 

How does spiritual mentoring differ from counseling?

Spiritual mentoring can help you connect with your own spirit, which sometimes requires getting some basic details figured out. As a spiritual mentor, I do not counsel; I am neither licensed nor ordained. If there is possible need for therapy or counseling, I might be able to provide you with references; the same goes for life coaching. Sometimes more than one modality can work well in sequence or even conjunction, but please be aware that there is no “easy way” or “short cut” to doing any work on yourself. Please also see the information sheet entitled What’s the difference? Psychotherapists, Counselors, Life Coaches, and Spiritual Mentors.

 

What is my role in the client’s life and what do I contribute?

My role is coach or tutor, guru, guide or traveling companion, and exemplar. I am a cheerleader and suggestion-maker. Any session with me typically includes a combination of intuitive and verbal healing practices, as well as a fair bit of mentoring and tutoring and at least a few questions. I can incorporate a slight amount of divination with tutoring in different techniques for grounding and centering, learning, and meditation. Typically, I begin with helping you identify the ways and times that Spirit already “speaks” to you. Together we can pinpoint self-care rituals for your body and your spirit. Then I strive to help you find your best methods to connect more deeply with yourself, your intuition, and your own divinity. I also include helping you learn how to recognize and balance any disparity between your physical life and your spiritual side. Finally, I can help you divine your mission and purpose in life and/or overcome any creative blocks.

 

What are my boundaries and limitations in mentoring?

1. I provide you with spiritual tools that can aid in your self-creation process. I seem to be adept at helping people learn when other methods have not worked well for their learning style. However, I do not and cannot force you to apply any tools or information in your life.

2. I provide external feedback, positive challenges, and verbal encouragement that can help you see your own progress. I do not provide rewards for you to work toward said progress.

3. I provide psychic insight when ethically available for the present situation. I do not offer divination when you choose not to act on previous insights, nor do I provide divination on other people or the future.

 

Who is responsible for what in a mentoring relationship?

I will provide you with tools or information, feedback and nurturing, questions and insight. I also provide a space that is safe for you to explore your own options and strengths and for you to look within and without for the Divine Energies in your life. I am not responsible for your choices, behaviors, or actions. I expect both of us to be punctual about appointments. I also expect you to be prompt about payments.

 

What is my experience and background in spiritual mentoring?

I’ve been working with energy and communicating with spirits since my early childhood and reading tarot cards professionally since 2011. My love for teaching and tutoring inspired me to become an instructor in post-secondary education. I discovered it was very hard for me to find let alone fulfill my mission in the formality of a classroom. As the Wheel of Life turns, I routinely find myself evaluating what works well, and so in late 2017, I applied to the Spiritual Guidance and Mentorship Training Certificate program at Atlantic University, which I finished in July of 2019. I also hold a Reiki I Certificate (2018) as well as a B.S. from Purdue University (2005).

 

What is my mission?

My mission is to nurture your wonderous self through divination and spiritual mentoring.

 

How much does a mentoring session with me cost?

Mentoring sessions and longer readings are $40 for a half hour or $60 for a full hour while in office. At events and off-site locations, simple readings are $15 for fifteen minutes. I also routinely offer classes and group discussions for donations.

 

What is my schedule and what availability is there for between-session contact?

My hours are posted on my website and Facebook page. You may text or email me in between office hours. If I am not in the office at the time you reach out to me, I will reply when I return. If it is urgent, we may opt to set up a call or other session appointment to discuss the matter.


When and how do we end the mentoring service?
We end the mentoring service as a mutual decision, or at your will or my discretion. Preferably, we will together decide that either I am unable to help you further or that you are aligned well enough and have a good enough rapport with your spirit that you no longer need services. In both cases, I request that you email me shortly after the discussion to remind me that we will not be continuing services. If you wish to end the mentoring, I request you email me notice of cessation so that I can be sure to remove future appointments from my calendar. I will do the same for you.

 

 
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WHat’s the difference? Psychotherapists, COunselors, Life COaches, and Spiritual Mentors

Definitions

Psychotherapy is a “treatment of mental or emotional disorder or of related bodily ills by psychological means.”[1] It involves a formal relationship with a client with one or more of “a broad variety or mental illnesses and emotional difficulties.”[2] Psychotherapy involves “a process whereby psychological problems are treated through communication and relationship factors between an individual and a trained mental health professional.”[3] Psychotherapy has goals set by the provider which address underlaying cognitive or emotional issues for the client. [4]

Counseling is “professional guidance of the individual by utilizing psychological methods especially in collecting case history data, using various techniques of the personal interview, and testing interests and aptitudes.”[5] Counseling is typically short-term, covers a broad range of topics, and focuses on only one issue at a time.[6] Counseling bases around specific situations and behaviors, and the actions needed to change those.[7]

A life coach is “a person who advises clients on how to solve their problems and reach their goals in life.”[8] Life coaching is a mutually beneficial, dynamic relationship between the client and an accredited provider that is designed to tap into the client’s full potential.[9]

Spiritual mentorship, on the other hand, is “the exploration of a person’s spiritual path with someone trained in listening, deep reflection, and discernment.”[10] A mentor is defined as “a trusted counselor or guide; a tutor or coach.”[11] A spiritual mentor, by extension, would then be someone trusted to guide, tutor, or coach the client in developing a relationship with the client’s own spirit and thereby with the ultimate Spirit.

Comparisons

Similarities: All four forms of guidance imply a formal relationship between client and provider with negotiated terms, fees, and schedules. All four work in the client’s best interest towards improvement in the client’s life (services are client-focused and not mutual). All four require the ability to communicate and build a relationship. It is recommended that all four professionals are trained carefully in skills such as active listening and posing mindful questions. Sessions with all four types of providers typically last 30-90 minutes and happen on a regular basis.

Differences: Psychotherapy and counseling both involve the mental and emotional health of the client, life coaching involves the client meeting their own goals, and spiritual mentorship involves only the spiritual fulfillment of the client. Psychotherapy typically is used for chronic issues and addresses the underlying causes of those issues whenever possible. Psychotherapy usually lasts six or more months. Counseling is more immediate (a few weeks to a few months) and behavior-based. Life coaching is often immediate and behavior-based while focusing on what specific goals the client wants to focus on. Spiritual mentorship is designed to help the client establish a better relationship with their chosen divine energies and is not usually in a pre-determined time frame. Spiritual mentorship also often makes space and time for the energy of the Divine, often at least beginning and ending with a prayer, meditation, or other Spirit-centered ritual, while psychotherapists, counselors, and life coaches often include such energies.

Furthermore, psychotherapy and counseling in Indiana are activities that require significant training and state licensure, though not all counselors must be certified through the APA (as in the case of pastoral counselors). Life coaching and spiritual mentorship, on the other hand, are non-regulated professions in Indiana, which means no formal training or licensure is required by law. Psychotherapy and counseling sessions are often able to be covered at least in part by standard health insurance plans, whereas life coaching and spiritual mentorship are not covered by health insurance.

Spiritual Mentoring Limitations

Spiritual mentors are not permitted to diagnose, treat, or advise on medical or psychological issues. Spiritual mentors can’t bill insurance. Spiritual mentors are not there to “fix” anything about or for the client. Spiritual mentors will not set goals for the client and will not hold the client accountable. Spiritual mentors are often trained not to encourage the client into feeling reliant on the provider. Spiritual mentors do not determine what is in the client’s highest interest. Spiritual mentors have professional boundaries and are advised against having dual roles with their clients. Spiritual mentors are not the directors in the relationship but are also not on equal footing with the client: the Divine directs, while the spiritual mentor provides space for the client to develop their own thoughts, feelings, and life choices in regards to the Divine’s directions.

Similarities in Ethics

1.      Doctor, heal thyself: All workers in these four arts need to demonstrate that they also are in tune with the demands of their profession and have done work on themselves.

2.      Do no harm: All workers in these four arts need to keep the best interests of the client at the forefront of the interactions.

3.      Keep confidentiality: No workers in these four arts may speak to others regarding anything said in confidentiality, saving for #4.

4.      Report what needs reported: All workers in these four arts must report anything that is state-mandated (Indiana mandates below)

a.       Intention to harm self or others including a plan and the means to carry out said plan

b.      Abuse or neglect of any child or dependent

c.       Abuse or assault of any adult

5.      Listen deeply and actively: All workers in these four arts must listen to, understand, and respect what the client has to say.

6.      Create space for transformative work: All workers in these four arts are there to allow space and time for healing work to be done by the client.

7.      Ask mindful questions: All workers in these four arts need to respectfully and carefully insert queries to the client at appropriate times.

8.      Be advised or mentored, too: All workers in these four arts are recommended to have trained professionals from whom they take supervision and/ or to whom they take their own issues.


[1] MerriamWebster.com, 2019

[2] https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/psychotherapy, 2019

[3] M. Herkov, 2018. https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-psychotherapy/

[4] N. Schimelpfening, 2019. https://www.verywellmind.com/counselor-or-psychotherapist-1067401

[5] See #1

[6] https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/guide-to-psychiatry-and-counseling#3, 2017

[7] See #4

[8] Dictionary.com, 2019

[9] LifeCoach.com, 2018. http://www.lifecoach.com/what-is-a-life-coach

[10] T. Blythe, 2018. Spiritual Direction 101, p. 2

[11] See #1